Hi there.  If you’re here, it’s likely our work has offended or triggered you in some way.  

We wrote this page to share more nuance about our beliefs that can’t always get articulated when the internet rewards clips that provoke anger and outrage without context or nuance.

(Which is tragic because relationships are ALL about nuance and subtleties.)

So if you’ve found a clip of our content that offended you, here are our overarching beliefs around the game of relationship that we can’t always speak to in short clips.

1) We believe the best relationships are custom crafted uniquely for you.  There is no model. No template. No rules to follow.  Black. White. Gay. Straight. No matter your race, color, orientation, gender, identity or dynamics… We are a big ‘fuck yes’ to you doing you in whatever way delights you and turns you on.  

Our site is called “The Art Of Love” for a reason.  Because we believe Love is Art. Make it your own masterpiece in whatever way you want.  Be weird. Be you.  We wholeheartedly subscribe to the words of this famous philosopher…

“We are all a little weird and life's a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.” - Dr. Seuss

2) We’ve custom crafted our relationship uniquely for our weirdness. We’ve spent 14 years sculpting, molding and refining it to have its own flavor, style and quirks.  We love it. (Obviously.)

When we speak, we’re speaking purely from our own point of view and what works for us.  We don’t believe our way is better than any other way.  We’re not recommending anything. We’re sharing because we enjoy it and because people find it valuable.  

But we do not recommend modeling your relationship after ours in any way shape or form. Remember Rule #1

3) We are not therapists, counselors, gurus, experts, shamans, or any other professional in this field. We have no licenses. No degrees. No honors. No Ivy League anything.  We have zero traditional qualifications to talk about any of these topics.  

What we do have is battle tested, real world experience of navigating complex, challenging and (sometimes) dark dynamics together.  

Our relationship philosophies and strategies were discovered in the darkest of depths from experimenting with our dynamics around money, sex, and power.   We only recommend things we have personally tried AND succeeded with.  

Fair warning:  these strategies can be extreme.  And they typically will either help a couple breakthrough their biggest conflicts… or break them up (with love.)  Use them at your own risk.

4) Our goal with sharing our ideas is to honor our mentors. In the depths of our most challenging periods together, we met pivot mentors who changed our love and lives with the gift of their wisdom.  They taught us things we never found in books, coaching, therapy or workshops.  Our goal in sharing our ideas is to pay it forward and help others who struggled as much as we did.  

5) We have strong opinions. While we hold them loosely… they tend to be extreme.   We are constantly learning and growing and our beliefs and philosophies evolve as we do.  Everything we believe today we have changed our mind on at some point.  

That said, our opinions are often fairly extreme.   We have some highly controversial views on topics like sex, marriage, compatibility, conflict, masculinity, femininity and more.  Pretty much everything we talk about triggers someone at some point.  

So if our opinions or personal preferences have offended you, you’re definitely not alone.  Again, please always remember Rule #1.  

Lastly, our hope is that you read this disclaimer and can feel that we love and respect you and your choices… even if we disagree on our ideas and philosophies about how to create a relationship you love.